Helping them cross over

Sage/Debs · Helping them cross over

Last nite I got a call. Please check this mare. I have been with her this week and not much improvement. I opened the window, placed my hands within her and knew this was her last day...."so tired, so very tired, so cold, so very cold, I want to go home". was what she said. While on the phone I told these words as she said them and heard the tears. A fine old mare almost 21, lovely graceful and so beloved. We hung up the phone but I stayed with her, my hands in her belly soothing the ache, warming her with what I could as they prepared for her crossing. She went in grace and slipped easily across. They called to tell me but I knew, I was there. She waits tho, not crossed over yet. She glistens with youthful coat and sparkling eyes. She had some goodbyes to make yet and to be sure her owner was alright. Later that nite she stepped over into the arms of the husband of the woman who loved her and she was happy.

This part of my abilities oftimes hurts my heart. I remembered Treasure, the one on the phone remembered hers, and then of course the owner with so much pain and loss this year is crushed. But to know we did the right thing...is blessed. To know I helped even a little is a gift.

Sulis

your an angel sage

Time Traveler

You've got me crying. It is so difficult. So heartbreaking, but so sweet and precious a moment. I'm glad you were there to help.

(I've found too -and just as you do - that it's needed to tell them that the ones they love here will be ok. And that it's ok to go... so important, their loyalty is so great.)

Sage/Debs

Thanks all, it's who I am, what I do now.

TT you have a wondrous good time at Pennsic! Fly my friend and Good Day My Lady!

mia

It upset me too.

I cannot feel how you do Sage. But I feel sad for the owner, you and all who loved her, but happy for her, so happy for her it cancels out my sadness.

Love mia xxx

BooBoo

Bless you, Sage......... I appreciate hearing of your experience.

TT put it very well -- Heartbreaking, but a sweet and precious moment. Lots of opposite emotions........intense.

The wonderful part is being able to "see" your or someone else's animal on the other side vibrant and happy........I try to describe it to the owner, if they are open to it. But there is so much to try to share! Sometimes I wish I could show them a video of what I've seen, so they can view it for themselves. I get so "filled up" with the view, the details, the joy........and then there's the grief and sorrow left behind.

Sage, how do you "see"? (For me it's with the Third Eye.)

Sage/Debs

Well, I had to stop and think on the how, Boo. I feel it in my hands, my heart, I see it thru my eyes in my head, could be the 3rd eye thing. I never questioned it before. it just "IS". I am finding that folks are opening more to this, it is not easy to be an angel of death, so to speak, but I was glad to help this time. I have not done it often with others so this one really had a punch and exquisite clarity. To know the owner grieved was very hard but to know that it was the right thing was a blessing to all.

BooBoo

Yes.......yes.......and yes........ q13

I call it the "third eye" for lack of any other way to describe it. It's a weird experience and hard to put words to it.

You're awake......things can be going on around you, but you are "seeing" something else that is also happening. And you know it's also real.

Like you said......it just IS.

I hope the mare lets you know when she joins the others in the "valley".

Sage/Debs

Oh she did, last nite late, G came and got her and they walked off. I didn't leave her till I knew she was safe.

BooBoo

Did you get to see the valley?????

Sage/Debs

Oh no, they just dissolved as they walked further and further away. One day maybe I will.

herding cats

What a wonderful thing to do.....I've never tried to be with an animal at a distance yet I have known when they have gone.

I always feel it no vision it is a feeling that goes to the core of my being.

I held my first dying creature when I was 4 or 5 and felt it slip away.

I've been the one to sit with many when their owners could not do it...... I've been accused of being cold, due to my lack of outward emotion when dealing with death............to me death is inevitable and it is a private thing......I can remember every single animal I have been with while it moved on and there are alot of them........I shall be smushed in a stampede when I go to meet them all again. q18

Sage/Debs

Yes, Cats..it is an intimate thing. I will also look for each one. I shed no tears when I am doing it for someone but in the dark later I may leak a bit of a tear for the pain those left behind feel. Life is a huge spiral, a circle and death is just one more step in the dance....it doesn't end with death, it just moves along the circle.

BooBoo

Time Traveler

At one time in my life, I worked for a veterinarian. I was the one who held animals when they put them down. I was the last one they felt on this level. Many owners chose not to be present, so it was me.

It was sad to see them go, but I felt fortunate to be the last touch they felt. I loved them each, even if I knew them for just that one moment. I felt "special," being given the chance to be last last one they know -- that they passed from my hands into what lie ahead. they were cradled with love.

It could have been very depressing, but I was't the one who dealt with the owners, just the animals. And I knew they were going with love. Seems nowadays, things are much more "sterlie" at the vet's office. We held them, we hugged them, we touched them, we petted them. I, at least, said goodbye. I can still feel them.

herding cats

prepare for ramble.....

I have been given the privledge of being there for many many animals entering this plane and equally as many leaving this plane. I don't really see beginnings and ends anymore. I almost feel like a greeter at a fancy hotel..."welcome I hope you enjoy your stay" "I hope you enjoyed your stay and do come back sometime"........ the more I think on it hawiians have it right "aloha" one word that is neither hello or goodbye.

I strangely have never felt it to be depressing to hold an animal as a vet releases them from this life. Yes when it is my animal or one I've known I am sad at the fact that I won't see them again here. Yes I miss them terribly. And yes I cry my eyes out when alone in private. Same with when people go. But the entire proccess of birth/death itself is neither sad nor happy it just is what it is. It is part of a circle a wheel that keeps turning, a never ending spiral of infinite possibilities.........

So celebrate those you've been blessed to know here on this part of the journey.... may we all meet again.

Shirley

Sage I am so glad you were there for her. That indeed makes the passage a better one. Not all horses are so fortunate to have someone sensitive enough to ease their fears about it and what you do is a godsend.

I had quite the opposite experience the last time I was with an animal that was euthanized. The horse had been vetted and almost everything had been tried except surgery. It was doubful that a 30+ year old horse was going to make it through the surgery so that wasn't considered as a viable option.

So the day came. My friend asked me to be there and I was but I didn't feel like he felt it was his "time". I was faced with the choice to tell my friend that he did not want this but I couldn't. It would have devasted her and the vet said nothing could be done. The horse was having to be catheterized daily and it was just a horrible situation. So it proceeded and he fought with all his might. I have never seen so much drug used to put down an animal in my life. On the 3rd bolus he finally went to his knees and then down. By now we were all crying hysterically and I've got to tell you that memory lives in the very depths of my soul to this day. Not all of them are in agreement with us on what we think we know is the right thing and is something to remember. That in itself has created a huge dilema for me as I found death is not always sunshine, rainbows and the final act of kindness we hope it to be.

Sage/Debs

Oh Shirley. What a hard memory. That is why I hesitate at times when folks ask me IF they are ready. I always ask are you SURE you want to know what this
animal" thinks/feels..if they say yes I go into them. This mare was leaving and ready. I remeber talking to Treasure, she was SO young, so beautiful, we could've tried a number of things but she wanted to go..if she couldn't be a horse and graze with her friends, it wasn't life for her.

This is not something I do often and I certainly do not advertise it, Lord it is a hard thing. Cats, I gare it is a big circle..when I die I want one hellova party! Music and dance, Shain even knows what music to play.

herding cats

Shirley so sorry you had to go through that.......

I have been with a horse that wasn't ready to go......he was right and in the end it was determined I was right the whole damn time.......but he was insured and well insurance companies rarely listen to grooms. q10

as sick as he was he fought like hell......it was an ugly ugly situation.....I stood by in the distance and sent him every bit of light I could fathom.....I couldn't watch and told all involved that he did not need to die if they would listen to me......

After the necropsy turned out he had salmonella .....I kept saying it was the water in the barn that made him sick.....later the barn well was tested positive for high levels of salmonella......why he got sick and none of the other horses no one knows, but not everyone reacts to bacteria the same....

I was extremely disappointed to say "I told you so"....

I will say there is one animal that is extremely hard to euthanize.....LLama's....... they require a dosage that would kill an elephant, for whatever reason. If this situation ever arises be forwarned it is a difficult thing......