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| Kathy |
Coming to terms with being an EmpathToday is the first day I've ever called myself an Empath. I've been in denial a very long time. Things have just been happening lately that I just can't deny it anymore. I just always felt one needed to be "special" to be an empath and I've never felt "special" So today I'm coming out of the closet and I'm laying claim to what I am, an Empath...
So, I'm needing advice on how to ground myself. I just take on way to much "stuff" that isn't mine to take on and I need to learn to ground. I have NEVER grounded myself before and don't have a clue where to start. Debs, any particular stones you think I should have to assist me with this? I'm not near as developed in my skills as many of you are, but I'm hoping now that I'm embracing, maybe I can hone my skills a bit better. Thanks everyone for your input... |
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| Sage/Debs |
Smoky Quartz is my main one. I have a huge round ball of it that sits right in the middle of my bowl of stones.
For you...your favorite "rose qtz" is a good one. draws off negative energy and strengthens empathy. Others: Apricot agate, moss agate, amethyst. blue chalcedony, chrysocolla, citrine, fluorite, jasper, labradorite, lapis, snow flake obsidian, tiger eye take a read to see about each listed http://www.chrystalpaths.com/whatstonesdolist.htm Welcome to a very unusual world. Be careful always ground and protect and trust what you see impulsively without reading too much into it. Trust your gut and your instincts! 
I wear several stones in "donut" shapes to keep me grounded and protected. Let's see...8 of them. Lapis, turquoise, rose quartz, rhodonite, amethyst, labradorite & moss agate ( I wear 2 lapis cuz of the pain I get at times) and a diamond heart. THEN I wear my prehnite earrings and bracelet and pendant...gosh that seems like alot but doesn't feel heavy! 
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| BooBoo |
Kathy,
The stones are great.........Each one is good for something a little different, I have found. But most importantly, they are both energy AND something physical to hold onto. Sometimes when I'm not grounded I feel like I'm off in "lala land" (as Bri puts it.) and something physical is necessary......... Believe it or not, eating certain foods -- and even sex, can help. (smile) |
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| Haywire |
Kathy: I'm in no way a teacher or even consider myself a light worker, but I will tell you what I have done to help me.
I'm so glad you have come out about your empathy. I am like you and it has taken me a while to figure out what was happening to me. I had to learn how to shield myself from negative thoughts and feelings I was picking up from others. You will need to figure out what works for you as we all have. I use the disco ball effect like Amy uses to shield myself sometimes. It helps me to feel like I am in control. Here is a copy of a post I did back in December on this forum.
Once you come up with what works for you, you will be able to visualize your shield and grounding in your head when you feel the negativity coming on. I am the type of person who feels things in my head, more like clairaudiant. You may have this too. Good Luck with finding your shield and grounding. Light the way; Jacquie [/quote] |
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| mofeta |
you need some chocolate!!!  Congrats on connecting with who you are, honestly that is a step towards getting grounded. For me, actually dog walks and time with my horses help keep me grounded. Also if something has knocked me way off balance talking to a fellow empath to work some things out helps, of course for me that is generally Owlsflight since we share a heartline. Occasionally it is Debs tho, she gets to hear my crazy thots on throwing rocks.
I am so proud of you! 
Mofeta |
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| the hermit |
Well done Lass
Don't try to understand too much too quickly |
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| Sage/Debs |
An empathic person is someone who can feel another, has a heightened sense of things and beings around them and those passed on at times. I think everyone was born this way but life is loud and it drowns out the little voices and nuances that make us listen....for some the noise quiets and we hear the undertones... and move forward.
btw there are absolutely NO stupid questions...one has to ask to learn. Kathy, I am so proud of you! and Jacquie, I remember when you did your grounding and I loved it! Keep it up you are on a wonderful path! |
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| Guest |
It's been a real eye opener today coming to this conclusion. I broke down a bit ago and just cried for a bit realizing that I was right all these years about my emotions and how I'm always a happy person and then BOOM, I'm moody, emotional, grumpy, whatever. There were times I wondered if I was bi-polar, though I know enough about the symptoms and know several people who are truly bi-polar to know I wasn't. John used to always think I had been moody or whatever all day before he got home. Nope, however the moment he got home, I got that way. I always told him I was perfectly happy and had a great day and didn't get that way until he got home (that never made him feel good, I'm sure  ). John has had a job he hates for a very very long time (he's been there 19 years and hated it for about the last 12). The job has slowly been killing him. I knew it was because of him, or the kids or whomever I was around, but I just never knew enough to relate it to anything such as an empath. It's just such a relief to realize what it is that causes me to be that way and now I just have to figure out how to ground myself so that I don't take on those feelings and mirror them right back at people.
It has been a particularly bad day with my two oldest kids. they are seriously rebelling against being home and doing their online school work. so much so I was ready to give up and put them back in the public school, only they refuse to go the the one in our district and after checking, I found out they can't get in the out of area one because it's over capacity and unless we live near the school, it's not an option. I have one girl absolutely refusing to do any school right now. She is in her room, no tv, no computer, no corgi sleeping with her, no fun period, until she decides to get with the program again. the other girl has oppositional defiant disorder and is emotionally unstable and has always been a challenge and I have to be delicate with her to get her to do her work. But anyway, I've been dealing with their raw emotions all afternoon/evening and it's taken a great toll on me. I seriously have to learn to block some of that stuff out so that I can function better for everyone. Now that I can clearly see why I have such drastic mood swings, everything seems so different. I knew it was outside influences, but just didn't understand why it affected me sooooooo much and not other people around me. It's bothered me for years knowing/feeling that I'm a happy person, yet to have such mood swings that came from nowhere messing up my happiness really irked me! 
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| Kathy |
FYI- That last "guest" post was me
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| Haywire |
Kathy: I could have written your post myself. Especially the part about feeling fine when I'm away from home, but when I come home I start feeling moody, edgy and just plain pissed off. I know its from my husband's negativity. It took me a while to realize what it was, but I know now.
When you feel the anxiety coming on you can teach yourself how to keep it away from you. It takes practice but you can do it. Good luck with your shielding and grounding. Haywire |
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| the hermit |
Everyone has a path to follow
We come it to this world knowing everything But by the time we find our true selves We have forgotten everything Its then when we have to learn to do it all again But this is only when we find try peace When we are at peace We start to find what we are truely caperable of hermie |
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| Kathy |
Don't get me wrong, my husband is a great guy, but he's always had issues with letting things stress him out and making too big a deal out of things that don't matter. He has improved greatly over the last few months and isn't that same guy anymore. He's really taken a good look at his life and he's made some serious changes and all for the better. He's much happier now than he's ever been I think.
That said, he was an unhappy person for a very long time and I absorbed that stuff like crazy. Even though I didn't want it. I think it really had a lot to do with our relationship having some rocky times, however, that's the past, our future is great. Now that I've realized what's going on, I can take steps to improve how *I* react to energies around me. THAT will be awesome. So even if he has a rare "bad" day, I will be able to shield myself from it and give him the support he needs to get through it better. Hermie, I believe what you posted. It's a shame that it takes some of us so long to get there and others never do. |
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| the hermit |
When we are ready it will happen But only if you want it to You can walk away and lead a normal life hermie |
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| Time Traveler |
For those who weren't on the Path when I posted it, or for those who would like to see it again, here's the URL to Marlene Lombardi's page on grounding. BTW, I had a phone reading by her. She's very on.
http://www.bridgingthegap.ws/index3.html Oh, and I have to work tomorrow & write obituaries all day. I just about can't stand it. I know what's happening, but I can't guard against it. I've tried. When you look at about 50-100 obits, it gets to you, especially when empathic things creep in. I dread it. I will leave there, I am sure, very depressed and expecting to expire myself any minute. Happens every time. |
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| BooBoo |
Kathy,
Here's another technique that I do whenever my family gives me the privacy! This "washes" the chakras and can also be grounding...... Step one -- Make sure everyone knows you want to take a nice long shower and NOT to interrupt unless there is a 911 emergency! LOL. Once your required cleansing is done, take some extra time under the pulsing water...... Start with the water hitting the top of your head (the crown chakra), tip your head and rinse your forehead (your third eye), then step forward and have the water work on the back of your neck (throat chakra), work on down your back opposite your heart, your solar plexis, etc. To ground yourself, focus the water on the base of your tailbone and feel the water go down you legs and visualize your feet as roots of a tree with the water soaking down into the roots. Hold on to that feeling and visualization for a few minutes before shutting off the water........ It's wonderful, trust me. |
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| Sage/Debs |
I do that also! It works.
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| horsefeathers |
No way could I do that!! I can't STAND water in my face!! That's why I cringe when I see people washing their horse's face full on with a water hose 
I could use the tree grounding. Pam |
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| BooBoo |
Validation from Debs! 
Here's an addendum......This also happens to be when I get "stuff" from my Guide(s)........Probably because by the time I'm done, I'm in meditation mode. Wish I could tell people how awesome the experience is.........but instead, I have to sign off because the child has an extracurricular activity......Don't you just love family life! 
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| Sage/Debs |
Oh Pam, I don't ever have the water in the face! I hate that...I stand with my back to the water and tip the head back and go from there. The shower time is me time and my mind goes running free and I talk to the guides and discuss life and what I want or don't want... | ||
| BooBoo |
No water in the face for me either! Keep you back to the shower head for the whole thing.
I use my hands and cup them around my face as I tip my head back and "wash" the top of my head and my Third Eye (forehead). Everything else is washed via the back. Sorry if that wasn't made clear....... |
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| Time Traveler |
Gees, that's the way I've been naturally taking a shower my whole life. Never thot/imagined it was meant to do anything. It does, however, feel great every time. I am tho a water-in-the-face kind of person. I love to look right up into the shower (eyes shut tho).Sometimes, I've wondered why I always take a shower in the same order. Hmmm...I guess this is why!
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| Sulis |
Wow this has really opened my eyes to some things that have been going on the last 40 odd years 
how often have i wondered why other people have the right to affect my moods, now i realise i was letting them thiis empath things all new to me, or maybe not most i just thought my heart chakra was way too open but didnt like to close it up, guess thats all ive known. i know i have sypathy pains with my husband but when youvve lived with someone this long 
think ill need to think onthis some more, never thought of me being and empath. |
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| BooBoo |
Sue,
It all may be one and the same! Someone who is naturally an empath just may have a tendency to have an open Heart Chakra! |
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| Sage/Debs |
Very possible Boo and Sue! Everyone is born with the instincts and abilities but the life, humans and the routines of growing up and listening to the outside world instead of the inside one smothers that ability in many. The trick is to stop and listen inside and then maybe you'll start hearing other things...if one wants to... I always have an Apache Tear handy...it grounds and protects without a thought as long as I give it the cARE AND LOVE IT NEEDS TO WORK FOR ME AND WITH ME. sorry cap lock!
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| anahata1961 |
Too funny, I just PN Debs regarding this and decided to check the forum.
Kathy, I tell you this has been hard on me. As time goes on the empathetic ability is becoming stronger and stronger. I use to be able to shield myself but it's harder now. This isn't just with the negative energies but all energies and I get so tired lately. I don't even leave the house much right now, cause I can't stand it. This isn't something I would have chosen for myself but now I am learning to live with it.
Patti |
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| Sage/Debs |
I'm gonna bump this up for Ravi, I hope it helps. We've all been there, alot of us. | ||
| Ravi |
Wow, reading all this makes me feel close to you all. Its nice when other people do understand what you are going through. 
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| Sage/Debs |
 See we is family here!
All you quiet ones who linger and read....go back a few years when the path was born and readh how we struggled and found and learned. The Path is safe and we respect all points of view even when we disagree it is done with respect and no malice. I hope you members of the family on the quiet will start to share...when you're ready of course. Thanks Ravi. |
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| the hermit |
And they even put up with a man in there mist
Its an easy relationship I tell them what to do And they go off And do what they were going to do anyway |
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| Sage/Debs |
Oh darling Hermie, put up with! No we are all in love with you and we do take to heart all your wondrous words. You know you've helped me greatly in times past and I know each of us has been touched by you. No minding words always....I dunno...I try...XXX
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| Kathy |
Wow. This takes me back! I had totally forgotten about this post. Seems forever ago, another lifetime. I forgot how I used to struggle with the whole empath thing because it's just second nature now. I'm fully aware of it and it's not anywhere near the problem it used to be.
I also totally forgot about the stuff I mentioned about the kids and online school! Must have totally blocked out that because I remember it all now as a good experience! LOL!!
Anyway, thanks for bringing back some memories of a very insightful time of my life. I was growing and expanding sooooo much during that time period it was amazing! I'm still growing and expanding, but it's at a much slower rate now that I got all the big stuff out of the way
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| the hermit |
Struggling takes place
In the moments before The realisations hit you We have all been there Running before we walk Then the moment we slow The realisation hit you And, we even miss that moment Its only later when we notice Things have fallen into place I wonder when that happened That defining moment |
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