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Today is the first day I've ever called myself an Empath. I've been in denial a very long time. Things have just been happening lately that I just can't deny it anymore. I just always felt one needed to be "special" to be an empath and I've never felt "special"

So today I'm coming out of the closet and I'm laying claim to what I am, an Empath...

So, I'm needing advice on how to ground myself. I just take on way to much "stuff" that isn't mine to take on and I need to learn to ground. I have NEVER grounded myself before and don't have a clue where to start.

Debs, any particular stones you think I should have to assist me with this?

I'm not near as developed in my skills as many of you are, but I'm hoping now that I'm embracing, maybe I can hone my skills a bit better.

Thanks everyone for your input...

Smoky Quartz is my main one. I have a huge round ball of it that sits right in the middle of my bowl of stones.

For you...your favorite "rose qtz" is a good one. draws off negative energy and strengthens empathy.

Others:
Apricot agate, moss agate, amethyst. blue chalcedony, chrysocolla, citrine, fluorite, jasper, labradorite, lapis, snow flake obsidian, tiger eye
take a read to see about each listed

http://www.chrystalpaths.com/whatstonesdolist.htm

Welcome to a very unusual world. Be careful always ground and protect and trust what you see impulsively without reading too much into it. Trust your gut and your instincts! q13

I wear several stones in "donut" shapes to keep me grounded and protected. Let's see...8 of them. Lapis, turquoise, rose quartz, rhodonite, amethyst, labradorite & moss agate ( I wear 2 lapis cuz of the pain I get at times) and a diamond heart. THEN I wear my prehnite earrings and bracelet and pendant...gosh that seems like alot but doesn't feel heavy!

Kathy,

The stones are great.........Each one is good for something a little different, I have found. But most importantly, they are both energy AND something physical to hold onto.

Sometimes when I'm not grounded I feel like I'm off in "lala land" (as Bri puts it.) and something physical is necessary......... Believe it or not, eating certain foods -- and even sex, can help. (smile)

Kathy: I'm in no way a teacher or even consider myself a light worker, but I will tell you what I have done to help me.

I'm so glad you have come out about your empathy. I am like you and it has taken me a while to figure out what was happening to me. I had to learn how to shield myself from negative thoughts and feelings I was picking up from others. You will need to figure out what works for you as we all have. I use the disco ball effect like Amy uses to shield myself sometimes. It helps me to feel like I am in control.

Here is a copy of a post I did back in December on this forum.

you need some chocolate!!! q14

Congrats on connecting with who you are, honestly that is a step towards getting grounded. q13

For me, actually dog walks and time with my horses help keep me grounded. Also if something has knocked me way off balance talking to a fellow empath to work some things out helps, of course for me that is generally Owlsflight since we share a heartline. Occasionally it is Debs tho, she gets to hear my crazy thots on throwing rocks.

I am so proud of you!

Mofeta

Well done Lass

Don't try to understand too much too quickly

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An empathic person is someone who can feel another, has a heightened sense of things and beings around them and those passed on at times. I think everyone was born this way but life is loud and it drowns out the little voices and nuances that make us listen....for some the noise quiets and we hear the undertones... and move forward.

btw there are absolutely NO stupid questions...one has to ask to learn.

Kathy, I am so proud of you!
and Jacquie, I remember when you did your grounding and I loved it! Keep it up you are on a wonderful path!

It's been a real eye opener today coming to this conclusion. I broke down a bit ago and just cried for a bit realizing that I was right all these years about my emotions and how I'm always a happy person and then BOOM, I'm moody, emotional, grumpy, whatever. There were times I wondered if I was bi-polar, though I know enough about the symptoms and know several people who are truly bi-polar to know I wasn't. John used to always think I had been moody or whatever all day before he got home. Nope, however the moment he got home, I got that way. I always told him I was perfectly happy and had a great day and didn't get that way until he got home (that never made him feel good, I'm sure q25

). John has had a job he hates for a very very long time (he's been there 19 years and hated it for about the last 12). The job has slowly been killing him. I knew it was because of him, or the kids or whomever I was around, but I just never knew enough to relate it to anything such as an empath. It's just such a relief to realize what it is that causes me to be that way and now I just have to figure out how to ground myself so that I don't take on those feelings and mirror them right back at people.

It has been a particularly bad day with my two oldest kids. they are seriously rebelling against being home and doing their online school work. so much so I was ready to give up and put them back in the public school, only they refuse to go the the one in our district and after checking, I found out they can't get in the out of area one because it's over capacity and unless we live near the school, it's not an option. I have one girl absolutely refusing to do any school right now. She is in her room, no tv, no computer, no corgi sleeping with her, no fun period, until she decides to get with the program again. the other girl has oppositional defiant disorder and is emotionally unstable and has always been a challenge and I have to be delicate with her to get her to do her work. But anyway, I've been dealing with their raw emotions all afternoon/evening and it's taken a great toll on me.

I seriously have to learn to block some of that stuff out so that I can function better for everyone.

Now that I can clearly see why I have such drastic mood swings, everything seems so different. I knew it was outside influences, but just didn't understand why it affected me sooooooo much and not other people around me. It's bothered me for years knowing/feeling that I'm a happy person, yet to have such mood swings that came from nowhere messing up my happiness really irked me! q10

FYI- That last "guest" post was me

Kathy: I could have written your post myself. Especially the part about feeling fine when I'm away from home, but when I come home I start feeling moody, edgy and just plain pissed off. I know its from my husband's negativity. It took me a while to realize what it was, but I know now.

When you feel the anxiety coming on you can teach yourself how to keep it away from you. It takes practice but you can do it.

Good luck with your shielding and grounding.

Haywire

Everyone has a path to follow
We come it to this world knowing everything
But by the time we find our true selves
We have forgotten everything
Its then when we have to learn to do it all again
But this is only when we find try peace
When we are at peace
We start to find what we are truely caperable of

hermie

Don't get me wrong, my husband is a great guy, but he's always had issues with letting things stress him out and making too big a deal out of things that don't matter. He has improved greatly over the last few months and isn't that same guy anymore. He's really taken a good look at his life and he's made some serious changes and all for the better. He's much happier now than he's ever been I think.

That said, he was an unhappy person for a very long time and I absorbed that stuff like crazy. Even though I didn't want it. I think it really had a lot to do with our relationship having some rocky times, however, that's the past, our future is great. Now that I've realized what's going on, I can take steps to improve how *I* react to energies around me. THAT will be awesome. So even if he has a rare "bad" day, I will be able to shield myself from it and give him the support he needs to get through it better.

Hermie, I believe what you posted. It's a shame that it takes some of us so long to get there and others never do.

For those who weren't on the Path when I posted it, or for those who would like to see it again, here's the URL to Marlene Lombardi's page on grounding. BTW, I had a phone reading by her. She's very on.

http://www.bridgingthegap.ws/index3.html

Oh, and I have to work tomorrow & write obituaries all day. I just about can't stand it. I know what's happening, but I can't guard against it. I've tried. When you look at about 50-100 obits, it gets to you, especially when empathic things creep in. I dread it. I will leave there, I am sure, very depressed and expecting to expire myself any minute. Happens every time.

Kathy,

Here's another technique that I do whenever my family gives me the privacy!

This "washes" the chakras and can also be grounding......

Step one -- Make sure everyone knows you want to take a nice long shower and NOT to interrupt unless there is a 911 emergency! LOL.

Once your required cleansing is done, take some extra time under the pulsing water......

Start with the water hitting the top of your head (the crown chakra), tip your head and rinse your forehead (your third eye), then step forward and have the water work on the back of your neck (throat chakra), work on down your back opposite your heart, your solar plexis, etc. To ground yourself, focus the water on the base of your tailbone and feel the water go down you legs and visualize your feet as roots of a tree with the water soaking down into the roots.

Hold on to that feeling and visualization for a few minutes before shutting off the water........

It's wonderful, trust me.